Are you a manly father? I'll start with a confession. On the typical manliness scales, I don't rate highly. Rugby?
Nil Do I have a
beard? No So why am I writing this article? Is it my way of expressing my deepest desires for long tramp in the Southern Alps? No. Its more important than that. You daughter needs a man for a father. Yes it is great that the role models like Jim Sammons wrestles with this son and daughters for fun. Yes it is great that Teddy Rosevelt wrote manly letter to his boys, these are great and worthy examples, but not all men can follow them. Manliness is not the outward things or appearances. You could say, "The beard maketh not the man." Men come in all shapes and sizes, and all ability types. I know there are accountants and lawyers that farm, and computer people that tramp. But does that make them manly? The whole world is looking for men that will make decisions and stick with them, even when everyone else gives up. They are looking for men that can see further than those around them, and who can alert others to potential dangers. Such leadership skills can be seen as one sign of manliness. They are matters of character. Well at least, they can be. Sometimes they are simply a matter of men listening to the women in their lives who can see these things. Thomas Eddison is an excellent example of someone who got an idea, and stuck with it. Another example is the character "Peter" in the excellent book, "Peter The Whaler". If you're interested in a manly book that is one I'd recommend any day! Another example of manliness is John Paton, the lead missionary in Vanuatu (then New Hebrides). He was a man driven by his father's vision of integrity. Then there was his father never had the fame and eternal glory of spear-heading Christianity among canabal tribes in the South Seas, but he was more than enough of a man to inspire his son to do so. What kind of father are you? Do you encourage your daughter to admire leadership from men? Do you encourage your daughter to notice men of integrity? Do you notice and encourage gentleness toward women and children? That is also a kind of manliness. If you have never thought of this, its understandable. Not many pople think like this any more. To get your thoughts on this topic moving, let me introduce you to an article on the subject. http://visionarydaughters.com/2008/12/show-your-support-for-manly-men Once again, I thank the visionary daughters! Great work Elizabeth Botkin. If you're wondering who the featured Matt Chancey is, here is some interesting fill in information. Matt is the husband of Jennie. She appeared in the DVD "Return of the Daughters". She is the co author of "Passionate Housewives Desperate for God". I'm pretty sure he doesn't smoke a cigar. Its part of "the look". (Think Teddy Rosevelt, Winston Churchill... Joseph Conrad especially comes to mind in that setting). I met Matt, March 2009. He hated the photo being put up! Your older daughters may be interested in that title, "Passionate Housewives Desperate for God". Email me if you are. We recently imported a DVD for a client and it cost $45 because of the exchange rates, but we can price a book import for you if it is not available in NZ. If you enjoyed this article, please pass on the web address. FatherDaughter Events is committed to providing thought provoking discussion on the things that matter to your daughter so you and your daughter can enjoy a better relationship.
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