About FatherDaughterEvents:
Who Drives It?

Neil Smith is the Father of 4 daughters.
The family live in the Darfield district, 50 minutes out of the nearest major town centre. Neil became interested in father daughter relationships  because his girls have grown older and he has to use his wits to stay out of trouble!

Over 10 Years Hard Earned Experience

"In 1996, when my first child was born, I thought that I had a chance of making a success as a Father as the baby was a boy! I was safe, I thought. Of course I made lots of mistakes and still do with my 3 boys and my 3 girls.

Thankfully my wife had a friend at school whose father kindly took an interest in me about the time my wife and I became engaged to be married.

This friend is an excellent communicator who didn't mind telling me where I could improve. As it happens, his older daughter was in the same year as mine at school, and his younger daughter was in same year in school as my wife. Their family followed ours to Darfield and our friendship with their families endures.

Drawing On Other Fathers' Experience

The start of my research into Father Daughter
relationships was my talks with this father friend and his prudent wife. Naturally the excellent family up bringing I've had, and  many stories of my grandfathers were also part of my research. But many people can get a start like that. What really got me thinking was when Istarted a weekly  gathering with fathers. Their children were a variety of ages.

From toddlers to late teen years. The children that were represented by those families came from a very diverse range of family backgrounds. For a number of years now I've been drinking deep at the well of issues that face fathers. Over breakfast for some years now, I've been exposed to a variety of issues that face fathers.

A Difficult Work Schedule Motivated A Search

In my line of work, living out of town as I do, once or twice a week I have found myself away from home for breakfast, lunch and dinner. At one point I was often  not seeing my children from Monday morning until Wednesday morning. Or putting them in bed on Monday night and seeing them again on Friday morning.

It wasn't that I didn't sleep in the same house, or phone them while I was away it was the timing of my coming and goings. But this schedule was putting a strain on my family. I was getting desperate. I needed tools to counter the natural behaviour of children who feel their father does not care about them.

An Old Tip Reworked

I recalled a great tip I had heard on a video clip about fathering from the U.S. I tried it in a slightly different format, and the results were outstanding.

I discovered that I could motivate the children remotely to help their mother with daily tasks. As long as I followed it up with another tool that required me to be there at other times. This tool worked so well, I stopped using it! (Do you forget to do things that work well too?)

I hope you enjoy reading this bio sketch. To find out more about FatherDaughterEvents and discover a new approach to raising girls (and boys too) that respect you and help your life partner with household and business tasks, join in an up coming event.

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